Our Parents

These stories are about my mother because I have no relationship with my father. She passed away from cancer in 2010 and I’m still working through my feelings about our complicated relationship.

This post is sponsored by Decide. Create. Share. a free seven-step program created by AARP to help women take charge of their futures. “Just get a gun and shoot me.” That’s what my mother told me I should do when she got too old, and/or too sick, to make her own medical/legal/financial decisions. I laughed it off. […]


Dear Mom, Today would be your 70th birthday if you hadn’t up and died. I sure wish you were here to celebrate it with me instead of me being here alone, feeling sad and blue that you are dead and gone. I’ve missed you a lot over these past two years. Well, at first I […]


In 1961, I was born in a government housing project to two teenaged parents. There’s me standing in front of the building we lived in. My grandmother lived around on the other side of the building. My parents met in this very courtyard when they were children. My mother’s family had to move to the project […]


Today’s post is brought to you by the letter “S” for Slut. Late last night, exhausted after a frustrating day fiddling with my recipes here on my blog , I finished re-reading The Scarlet Letter. After the steady diet of Mind Twinkies® I’ve been gorging on lately, i.e. Charlaine Harris’ Sookie Stackhouse novels, I figured I’d […]


When I brought my mom here to the Mountain, after she was diagnosed with cancer in 2007, I tried taking her to church with me, but I’m afraid that it didn’t work out so well. For one thing, she was driving me absolutely crazy and I wanted any excuse to get away from her. Second, […]


It’s Word of Wisdom Sunday again and I’m sure this series is tickling my mother to no end.  She’s laughing to herself and saying, “I bet she wishes she’d listened closer to me, now.”  And she’d be right; I wish I had.  Even as she was dying I wish I’d listened more. So here’s today’s morsel […]


I’ve been really sad the past few days about my mom dying and, frankly, I’ve been sorely missing her for lots and lots of reasons, not the least of which is that, when she died, she took with her my best source for new material.  For instance, she left me this thought-provoking gem which I’ll […]


  On December 23rd at 8:30 in the morning my mother passed away in my home surrounded by her family. She went beautifully and peacefully. Thank you all for your prayers and support.


My mother’s brothers have arrived on the scene (via phone calls yesterday. They want to descend in person this Saturday “before it is too late”). Unlike the Cavalry, they are a day late and a dollar short. They haven’t made one move towards her since her cancer diagnosis three years ago. They were informed in […]


My mom is dying. She was suddenly diagnosed with Stage 4 Metastatic Colon Cancer in September and it has been a steady downward slide toward death ever since. I don’t know how much longer she has. Days. Weeks. Maybe even a few more months. But she is dying and soon. This disease is a continuation […]