This post is inspired by Shot@Life, an initiative of the United Nations FoundationDuring the month of August–Blogust–31 bloggers are writing about moments that matter. For every comment on this post and the 30 other posts, Walgreens will donate a vaccine (up to 50,000 vaccines). A child dies every 20 seconds from a vaccine-preventable disease. We can change this reality and help save kids’ lives! 

Love You Forever

My son was born at the end of a long, hot September night in 1990. For reasons that made perfect sense to me before the 12 hours of hard labor began, I’d opted to have an unmedicated homebirth with a midwife. I did come to doubt the wisdom of this decision somewhere around hour 10 or 11, but by then I was sort of committed.

After two hours of arduous pushing, all 9 pounds and 14 ounces of my beautiful son came tumbling out between my knees. I scooped him up, still wet and bloody, and all I could say, over and over again, was, “It’s my boy! It’s my beautiful boy!”

birthing-wolfie

The Best Mother’s Day Present Ever!

Time, the ultimate master of us all, passes, and as I’m writing this piece about my beautiful son, moments from his life flash through my mind.

One of my favorite memories is the Mother’s Day when he was four. He came running up to me with his biggest smile to tell me he’d brought me “The BEST Mother’s Day present ever! I got it just for you!”

I watched with anticipation as he proceeded to pull from his bulging front pocket an odd assortment of little toy men, bits of important trash he’d collected, pieces and parts of Legos, and finally, fished from the bottom of his pocket, the prize: A dead fly.

“I caught it with my bare hands and killed it just for you!”

He presented to me this trophy of masculine achievement with all the pride and reverence a noble gift like this deserves.  I do not believe I’ve ever received a more precious gift.

Matt Shot at Life

Love You Forever

Have you ever heard of the book, Love You Forever, the story about a mother’s love for her son as he grows up, and how, despite it all, no matter what he does, or where he goes, she loves him forever?

A quick look around the internet will show you that many people think this book is creepy just because the mother gets a ladder and drives across town in the middle of the night to climb into her grown son’s window to hold him while he’s sleeping.

loveyourforever

That’s because there are too many unimaginative cynics in this world who do not seem to understand that just because your son masquerades around as a grown man your heart doesn’t recognize him for the little boy he’ll always be.

The book made me cry. But not nearly as much as my son has.

Sex, Drugs and Rock ‘n Roll

My son graduated from high school the year the housing bubble burst and the economy tanked. He refused to go to college, opting instead for the time-honored vocation of suffering, starving artist.

Matt-3

As his mother, let me just say in all honesty that this has pretty much sucked for me a lot of the time. Why God decided to send me a musician for a son instead of an accountant I’ll never know. Maybe it’s because He knew my love for this man-child is strong enough to take it.

Earlier this year, I read the book, The Artist’s Way, by Julia Cameron and began to understand not only what it means to be a creative, but to have one you love in your life.  I’ve come to accept that my son marches to the beat of a different drummer. (And, just between you and me, if I ever find that damned drummer I’m going to beat him to death with his own drumsticks!)

Don’t You Ever Ask Them Why

My son continues to amaze and confound me. While many of my friends worry over whether or not their 22 year olds will ever become independent, my son insists on paying his own way. And while I’ve worried over whether or not he and I will survive his choices, right or wrong, I am so proud of him for having the guts to make them.

It takes guts to stand on your own as a man today and take responsibility for your own life. And it takes guts (and possibly a lot of red wine and Xanax) to be the mother of such a man.

I’ve learned the hard way that it is best to just look at him and sigh, and know we love each other. Forever.

Sign up here for a daily email so you can quickly and easily comment and share every day during Blogust! Stay connected with Shot@Life at www.shotatlife.org, join the campaign on Facebook and follow them on Twitter.

 

Leave a Comment

CommentLuv badge

{ 211 comments… read them below or add one }

regina July 3, 2014 at 4:43 am

Hello every one out side there reading this few words i have to say,,, if you are in need of a love spell caster pls, contact dr.odumaspellhom@gmail.com, that is the email of the wonderful man who help Me to get back my lost relationship., am Regina

Reply

Penelope June 8, 2014 at 4:13 am

You can certainly see your expertise within the work you write.
The sector hopes for more passionate writers such
as you who are not afraid to say how they believe.
All the time follow your heart.
Penelope recently posted..PenelopeMy Profile

Reply

Alina September 6, 2013 at 1:49 pm

Here’s to the vaccines!

Reply

Migdalia - @MsLatina August 31, 2013 at 9:03 pm

I love this post! Your wonderful 22 year old son is an inspiration!

Btw, you are a rock star! 9 pounds and 14 ounces – amazing!
Migdalia – @MsLatina recently posted..Spice Up Your Life with McCormick #Giveaway #adMy Profile

Reply

sean ishum August 31, 2013 at 8:09 pm

that is cool that your son is an artist! great for him!

Reply

Al Denelsbeck August 31, 2013 at 7:06 pm

An artist will be an artist with or without support. But they tend to be much better with it.

Thanks for supporting Shot@Life!

Reply

Gail August 31, 2013 at 2:32 pm

Our children teach us so well – if we let them! I have a beautiful daughter who teaches me about love all the time – and I am so grateful. Great that we can spread our love to others with Shot@Life. Also sending love to those parents and children who don’t get to receive or understand that love.

Reply

Netta Conerly August 31, 2013 at 9:15 am

Rough childbirth but handsome son. Best to both of you. Thanks for supporting Shot@Life.

Reply

Steph August 31, 2013 at 12:45 am

Great post. Thanks for supporting Shot@Life

Reply

Dolly Navina Lakra August 29, 2013 at 7:31 am

Love It !

Reply

Lynda @MommyPowers August 28, 2013 at 7:52 am

Thanks for sharing your story! Every child matters!

Reply

~j. August 27, 2013 at 8:14 pm

Sounds like he’s just the kind of kid to leave his window open just in case his mom decides she needs to rock him back and forth, back and forth, back and forth, in the middle of the night.

Thank you for being involved with Shot@Life!
~j. recently posted..In the HeightsMy Profile

Reply

Edith August 27, 2013 at 3:08 pm

A mother’s love is unconditional. You and your son will be just fine.

Reply

Tanis August 26, 2013 at 3:59 pm

A mother’s love for her child is inspirational. Love this.
Tanis recently posted..Who Let the Dogs Out?My Profile

Reply

Carpool Goddess August 26, 2013 at 7:46 am

Chloe, I love that book too. It can only be fully appreciated when they’re grown. Heavy sigh. Beautiful post.
Carpool Goddess recently posted..Summer Lovin’ (Had Me A Blast)My Profile

Reply

Sue August 26, 2013 at 7:33 am

Thanks for blogging and supporting Shot @ Life! Love you Forever has always been an important book and part of my family!

Reply

Cyn August 25, 2013 at 6:35 pm

Glad to add a comment to this great post!
I have two daughters in their twenties & boy has it been challenging & yes I’ll love them no matter what!

Reply

Chaz Walter August 25, 2013 at 10:27 am

Cool!

Reply

Jennifer Burden @WorldMomsBlog August 25, 2013 at 5:51 am

Here’s to unlocking one more vaccines for the children who need it most!

Jen 🙂

Reply

Colleen August 24, 2013 at 8:27 pm

This is such great, honest post :] And that lion pic is way too cute! Best of luck to your son, and to you!

Reply

Kyle August 24, 2013 at 3:00 pm

Love You Forever was one of my favorite books to read to my children. It still makes me cry. It captures how I feel about my children, even now that they’re grown.
Kyle recently posted..Sunday RitualsMy Profile

Reply

Chloe Jeffreys August 24, 2013 at 5:07 pm

Kyle, I almost think you can’t truly appreciate the book until your children are grown. Then you know what it means to love them forever.

Reply

Elaine A. August 24, 2013 at 2:11 pm

What a great performance! Is he playing the tambourine somehow too? That is one talented son you have there. You’re an excellent mother, Chloe 🙂
Elaine A. recently posted..A picture, a thousand words, you know the sayingMy Profile

Reply

Chloe Jeffreys August 24, 2013 at 5:06 pm

Yes, he’s playing the tambourine with his foot. He’s a literal one-man band.

Reply

Stephanie August 24, 2013 at 8:21 am

I have three teens – an artist, a musician, and a writer. It’s becoming very clear to me that none will become accountants. It’s scary. And yes, you love them and hang on for the ride.

Reply

Chloe Jeffreys August 24, 2013 at 5:07 pm

Stephanie, God must really have a lot of faith in the strength of your love. God bless you!

And thank you for commenting and saving a life.

Reply

Josette August 23, 2013 at 9:10 pm

I used to think the mom in Love You Forever was freaky too…until my son was born almost 2 years ago. Thanks for your post and your support of Shot@Life!

Reply

Jan McAlpine August 23, 2013 at 2:24 pm

We loved the book “Love you Forever”. My daughter is adopted and I think it conveyed to her in very subtle ways just how much I loved her and she and her husband are committed to taking care of me in my old age. Which fortunately is a ways off!

Reply

Chloe Jeffreys August 24, 2013 at 8:17 pm

Jan, I also really like that aspect of the book. I think our culture is a bit messed up. People who love you should be there when you’re small and when you’re old. That’s how I hope it works out for me, anyway.

Thank you for commenting.
Chloe Jeffreys recently posted..Love You ForeverMy Profile

Reply

Kate August 23, 2013 at 12:46 pm

Shouldn’t read this while pregnant, lol, gonna make me cry! 🙂

Reply

Chloe Jeffreys August 23, 2013 at 1:23 pm

They do grow up so fast. Now I feel like one of those old ladies at the supermarket. Thanks for commenting!

Reply

Whit August 23, 2013 at 11:37 am

We’re raising two sons, and man, it’s an honor. Great post.
Whit recently posted..The Dog Days Are OverMy Profile

Reply

Chloe Jeffreys August 23, 2013 at 1:23 pm

It is an honor and a serious obligation. And not so easy either. Thank you for commenting and contributing to such a worthy cause.

Reply

Mary Grace August 23, 2013 at 9:25 am

Your love for your son encourages me so deeply as I look at my own creative boy (11) and wonder what our future holds.
Mary Grace recently posted..Making homeMy Profile

Reply

Chloe Jeffreys August 23, 2013 at 1:24 pm

Like childbirth, it’s not so bad once you hit your stride. Parenting a creative artist has certain challenges, but it is never, ever boring. They sure do keep you on your toes. Thank you for leaving a comment and contributing to Blogust.

Reply

Andrea August 23, 2013 at 6:28 am

This made me cry. I can’t imagine anything that would ever make me love him less. Thank you for sharing.

Reply

Chloe Jeffreys August 23, 2013 at 1:26 pm

Thank you for commenting. Having a relationship with my children is the single most important thing in the world to me.

Reply

Kimberly August 23, 2013 at 3:45 am

Love You Forever made me cry too. I remember telling my son he could stay with us forever. Even when he is married with children. He was about seven at the time. He’s ten now. He answered me by saying, “Mom, you’ll be dead by then.” I love that little guy.

Reply

Chloe Jeffreys August 23, 2013 at 1:27 pm

How funny. My daughter swore when she was little that she would marry her daddy, and nobody else. I miss those innocent times.

Thank you for commenting.

Reply

GR August 23, 2013 at 3:33 am

Wow, so much emotion in that song! Awesome.

Reply

Chloe Jeffreys August 23, 2013 at 1:28 pm

Thank you! And thank you for commenting and contributing to this worthwhile cause.

Reply

Lyssa August 23, 2013 at 2:32 am

Pretty sure I too have an artist in the making!
Lyssa recently posted..12th Day and Tired…..but It’s All Good!My Profile

Reply

Chloe Jeffreys August 23, 2013 at 1:28 pm

There are many thinks much, much worse than having an artist for a child. But it definitely isn’t always easy.

Thank you for commenting and contributing to Shot at Life!
Chloe Jeffreys recently posted..Love You ForeverMy Profile

Reply

Lisa @ Grandma's Briefs August 22, 2013 at 9:39 pm

I have a quote written on one of the walls in my house that says “A beautiful thing is never perfect.” That’s never more true than when it comes to our children. Lovely post, Chloe.

Reply

Chloe Jeffreys August 23, 2013 at 1:30 pm

I love that quote, Lisa. I think I want to have it tattoo’d to the insides of my eyelids to remind me that God loves the imperfect things of this world, which most definitely includes me.

Thank you for commenting and contributing to this worthwhile cause.

Reply

Jean Esposito August 22, 2013 at 9:09 pm

I am up alone and have enjoyed reading the stories and comments so much … so many that remind me of my own life. I was 32 when our first child was born – a son. I had some problems during the pregnancy & some problems during the labor and each problem terrified me that my child was in trouble. Well, they had to induce labor and there were some problems with that. After what seemed like forever, the nurse came in, then my doctor, then another doctor and before you know it they were literally running down the hall with me on the gurney. I still remember when it hit the doors to OR and saw all the lights and people rushing around. The nurse suddenly stopped and said “I forgot to let you kiss your husband good-by” … what? I told her it was ok and that I would kiss him on the way out. First back labor which I had decided I was definitely not going to have and then an emergency C-section which I definitely was not planning. Eventually, those words “you have a son” … I couldn’t breathe and I asked “is he ok?” They laughed and told me he was fine. Later I found out when they told my husband he had a son, he paused and then asked “is he ok?” Well, he’s 35, he is ok and I will love him forever.

Reply

Chloe Jeffreys August 23, 2013 at 1:31 pm

Having been at the births of somewhere around 2,000 human beings, I can tell you that nearly every mother and father asks that question. It is always a parent’s hope and wish that their child is okay. This is a particularly sobering thought when you realize that there are parents in this world who cannot get even the most basic healthcare for their precious children.

Thank you for commenting and contributing to saving another mother’s child today. That’s a big deal.

Reply

Julie August 22, 2013 at 8:59 pm

Great post! We can only encourage our children in their life choices, not make decisions for them.

Reply

Chloe Jeffreys August 23, 2013 at 1:32 pm

So true! I think we get used to making so many decisions for them when they are little that we forget that ultimately their lives are not ours to control and direct. At least that was a hard lesson for me to learn.

Thank you for commenting and contributing to this worthy campaign.

Reply

Filly Liandri August 22, 2013 at 8:00 pm

Dear Chloe.
I am not yet a mother, but a proud big sister to my 19 years old quiet-shy-introvert brother.
My mom and I argues alot when it comes about his passion and hobbies at music. She worried (as every mother does), I support.
He prefers to stay at his bedroom, to study, play games, and music – writing lyrics, composing the music, or just simply singing.
And since i shared the same passion so i joined him.
By reading your sharing, it enlightened me.
And gives me new encourage to support more my own brother’s idea and dreams.

Reply

Chloe Jeffreys August 23, 2013 at 1:34 pm

Your brother is so blessed to have you there to support his dreams. I think it is hard for moms because our fears sometimes get in the way. He’s lucky to have you. And your mother is lucky, too. Your optimism and support may help her get past her fears and see the blessings of having a child who does march to the beat of a different drummer.

Reply

Raylene August 22, 2013 at 7:45 pm

I had two daughters who are amazing beautiful women. When my oldest was pregnant with her third child and it was a boy, I wondered if it would be any different than having girls…..and it is in so many wonderful ways. To this day, I wonder why I ever questioned my heart. Now, in addition to our little grandson and his two sisters, we have two little grands that lived in Ethiopia before they came home to our love. So we understand and support vaccinations!

Reply

Chloe Jeffreys August 23, 2013 at 1:35 pm

I am an adoptive grandmother too. I wondered if I could love an adopted grandchild as much as a biological one, but the moment I saw my little grandson’s face I knew that, for my heart, there would never be any difference.

Blessings to you and your family. Thank you for contributing to this important campaign. Every child deserves a shot at life.
Chloe Jeffreys recently posted..Love You ForeverMy Profile

Reply

Emily August 22, 2013 at 7:26 pm

Thanks for posting for a great cause!

Reply

Chloe Jeffreys August 23, 2013 at 1:36 pm

Thank you for commenting!
Chloe Jeffreys recently posted..Love You ForeverMy Profile

Reply

carol August 22, 2013 at 7:19 pm

They go their own way don’t they…..
He is talented……listened to the video….
I have a son who is an artist, very creative …..did not see it coming!

Lets be thankful they can find their way to what they love and what is in their heart that makes them happy….
Thanks for writing and participating in Shot@life Blogust!

Reply

Chloe Jeffreys August 23, 2013 at 1:37 pm

Yes, let us be thankful! I wish I could have come to this gratitude more gracefully, but at least I got here.

Thank you so much for your comment. Not only did you contribute to a worthy cause, but you have encouraged me today. God bless!

Reply

Mary Koslap-Petraco August 22, 2013 at 7:12 pm

What a beautiful tribute to your artistic son!! And he is healthy because he never has to experience vaccine preventable diseases. Let’s make sure all of the children on the world grow to adulthood because they have been vaccinated.

Reply

Chloe Jeffreys August 23, 2013 at 3:06 pm

Every mother deserves to have her child live to grow up and live long enough to drive her insane. Thank you for contributing!

Reply

Melissa August 22, 2013 at 6:49 pm

Be proud to know that you raised an independent young man.

Reply

Chloe Jeffreys August 23, 2013 at 3:06 pm

I so am.
Thank you for your contribution to a terrific cause!
Chloe Jeffreys recently posted..Love You ForeverMy Profile

Reply

Rick and family August 22, 2013 at 6:46 pm

To value any dead life as the most precious mother’s day gift ever sadly shows that you had not imparted the right values to him. To write about it now sadly shows that nothing has changed. Here’s hoping you you and your son grow up to see living things as precious. At least you’re helping to vaccinate children. How about trying to do something to stop cruel factory farming next.
Thank you for considering our heartfelt views on these important subjects.

Reply

Chloe Jeffreys August 23, 2013 at 3:07 pm

You were never a four year old boy, were you?

Thank you for contributing to a great cause!
Chloe Jeffreys recently posted..Love You ForeverMy Profile

Reply

tannia August 22, 2013 at 6:43 pm

I’ve never had children but goodness it seems like such a beautiful yet tragic role

Reply

Chloe Jeffreys August 24, 2013 at 8:19 pm

It certainly is much more bittersweet than I ever imagined when I was the one sprouting my wings and flying. Now I realize how much I must have heart my own mother’s heart.

Thank you for commenting and contributing to such a worthwhile project.

Reply

Connie Flores August 22, 2013 at 6:39 pm

Great blog! Thanks

Reply

Tamara August 22, 2013 at 6:25 pm

Perfect post!

Reply

Chloe Jeffreys August 24, 2013 at 8:19 pm

Thank you for commenting!

Reply

Kacie August 22, 2013 at 6:14 pm

Love that he gave you a dead fly for Mother’s Day. Kids are so funny!

Reply

Chloe Jeffreys August 24, 2013 at 8:20 pm

I didn’t even know that’s what I wanted.

Thank you for commenting.
Chloe Jeffreys recently posted..Love You ForeverMy Profile

Reply

just JENNIFER August 22, 2013 at 6:11 pm

You and your son sound like pretty cool people. This is a lovely post.
just JENNIFER recently posted..Addicted to the Internet?My Profile

Reply

pingram August 22, 2013 at 5:59 pm

I hope you get lot of comments

Reply

pingram August 22, 2013 at 5:59 pm

this vaccine thing is a good idea

Reply

pingram August 22, 2013 at 5:59 pm

well said – you certainly have a way with words

Reply

Lynn J August 22, 2013 at 5:49 pm

You & your son sound amazing! Thanks for sharing your story and helping kids get the vaccines they need so much. I couldn’t believe when I read your birthing story how close it was to mine with my second son who’s now 25. The only differences were my son was born in a hospital because he was a VBAC (vaginal birth after C-section) so my midwife wouldn’t agree to a home birth. His birth was also unmedicated. They were even pretty much the same weight, except my son was only 9 lbs. 6 oz!
God bless you & your son!

Reply

Carol Doyle August 22, 2013 at 5:39 pm

Sons are special.

Reply

Carol Doyle August 22, 2013 at 5:38 pm

Nice story.

Reply

Kat August 22, 2013 at 5:06 pm

Love this, Chloe. The video gave me chills. What a talented young man he is.

Reply

ony August 22, 2013 at 5:01 pm

Wonderful story!

Reply

Haley G August 22, 2013 at 4:59 pm

There’s nothing like a mother’s love for her son!

Reply

Lisa Froman August 22, 2013 at 4:56 pm

I love the birthing photo. Gorgeous. I remember when my son was young I used to think that I exhaled every time he took a breath. And while I’m not familiar with the story I’ll Love You Forever, I do know The Runaway Bunny. It’s basically the same premise and I loved it when he was young and still feel like I’d turn myself into a tree to offer him shade, if he needed it. Sigh. Thanks for a lovely, heartfelt post.

Reply

Insight1 August 22, 2013 at 4:54 pm

My girls continue to challenge me and teach me every day. It is a gift that I cherish.

Reply

Heidi August 22, 2013 at 4:41 pm

Wow, just breathtaking! The post, the pictures, the MUsIC! You can tell you have put your heart into raising this boy by reading your post and watching him play. The passion you have for life lives on in him. That, we can all see! Thank you for you fierce post & for your son for sharing his talent with us. <3 And YES to providing a vaccine to a child in need, so he can experience life to the fullest like your dear 22yr old!

Reply

Linda August 22, 2013 at 4:37 pm

This is a sweet blog. I went to a celebration happy hour last week. While there a very nice woman came by to talk a bit. Her grown son was sitting down across the table from me. The look in her eyes when she looked at her son….so sweet and so tender…There is something about Mothers and Sons that is very special. I have a son and i think i often look at him the same way.

Reply

whatpalebluedot August 22, 2013 at 4:16 pm

Hooray for vaccines. Preventive health care matters.

Reply

Julie August 22, 2013 at 4:02 pm

Love to you and your son and all the Mom’s who make the choice everyday to love .

Reply

carol cornelius August 22, 2013 at 4:00 pm

Neat story, tho I’m very certain that if ever I tried that stunt, my son would have me committed.

Reply

Felisa Hilbert August 22, 2013 at 3:47 pm

What a beautiful post… remind me of my oldest daughter at 22 and the choices she make and how independent she was. She learned to work and pay her own way and make sure to let us know that she was an adult. Last week she married to a great man and I am so proud of of her and always love her…

Reply

Patricia La Brie August 22, 2013 at 3:38 pm

Thanks for lending a post!

Reply

Diane Glasgow August 22, 2013 at 3:38 pm

TFS! Best wishes!
~Diane in TN

Reply

Machell Evans August 22, 2013 at 3:31 pm

Fantastic!

Reply

Laurie August 22, 2013 at 3:30 pm

So what kind of accent is the boy singing in? He and Taylor Hanson should get together and jam. MMMMBOP

Thanks for the lovely blog. I don’t think it’s creepy at all, what that Love You Forever mom did.

Reply

Veronica August 22, 2013 at 3:15 pm

Thanks for sharing. #Shot@Life

Reply

Caleb August 22, 2013 at 3:00 pm

The dead fly story rocks!

Reply

Connie August 22, 2013 at 2:49 pm

Wow! Enjoyed the video and your photos along with your thoughts.

Reply

Linda ban August 22, 2013 at 2:47 pm

Oh Lord, my 22 year old son is a musician too with the voice of an angel. He certainly marches to his own beat which makes me so proud and at the same time breaks my heart because it is hard to watch one you love more than life itself swim against the tide. But, thank you God for the brave artists. And , yes, I totally get Love You Forever. Once you give your heart away with such abandon to that little creature, it comes back forever transformed.

Reply

Don Wilkerson August 22, 2013 at 2:47 pm

Thanks. Enjoyed your post.

Reply

Patricia August 22, 2013 at 2:43 pm

Beautiful story! And Thank You to Walgreens…

Reply

Amanuel August 22, 2013 at 2:13 pm

Very powerful people and the work that they have done is beyond any one’s imagination. Thank you great people for sacrificing your time and doing the right thing in your eyes!

Reply

Darren J August 22, 2013 at 2:08 pm

Lovely post! 🙂

Reply

Lucrecer August 22, 2013 at 2:04 pm

This touches my heart in such a special way.

Reply

Kelli August 22, 2013 at 2:01 pm

very very sweet! I believe I have one of those too – he’s only 14 so we’ll see :o)
Kelli recently posted..Spray Paint is My Best FriendMy Profile

Reply

Rita August 22, 2013 at 1:27 pm

Thank you for sharing your story. It has made me reflect of my kids …

Reply

Alana August 22, 2013 at 1:23 pm

Very sweet article! Make me look forward to the day when I have a child. 🙂

Reply

Jessica August 22, 2013 at 1:16 pm

Vaccines!

Reply

Jim August 22, 2013 at 1:12 pm

My sons are grown and now it’s my grandsons who are giving us all heart attacks as they hit their 20s. But it’s all worth it. Here’s to giving more kids a chance!

Reply

Sharon Kosch August 22, 2013 at 1:11 pm

Chloe, your steadfast love for Wolfie has always shown through, even when you probably wanted to rip his hair out.

I love having a son. He’s still at home taking an online technical course. It’s not really what I want him to do but he’s so determined and doing really well. It took him a few years to get to this point.

He’s such a help to us as we enter our retirement years. We’re really going to miss him when he moves out – he’s our muscle man!

Reply

Debbie August 22, 2013 at 1:05 pm

Great blog. I love my 21 year old son too no matter how much we disagree. I am proud of his uniqueness although it makes me crazy some time.

Reply

Kate K August 22, 2013 at 1:02 pm

Beautifully said!

Reply

Jennie-Wren August 22, 2013 at 12:52 pm

My son also marched to the beat of a different drum – I miss him every minute of every day. Your son is a wonderful young man

Reply

Jacob August 22, 2013 at 12:45 pm

Thanks for posting!

Reply

Mary Arena August 22, 2013 at 12:39 pm

I’m new to this blog today. So happy I found it.

Reply

meg August 22, 2013 at 12:22 pm

In addition to her love, I am betting that she gave her son the gift of vaccinations. It is terrible that some people are denying the science and denying their children the love of a vaccination.

Reply

Beth Gold August 22, 2013 at 12:16 pm

Listened to the song first and cried..loved his rendition! Then read the blog and cried again. Parenting children …young and young adults… is hard work but I love it! Hang in there.

Reply

Patricia August 22, 2013 at 12:06 pm

Very glad you had a natural birth with a midwife. Great to know some mothers still do. Usually a glorious experience for the parents, much better for the baby. I hope this beautifully written piece encourages others to choose a midwife too.

Reply

Beth August 22, 2013 at 12:04 pm

Thanks for such a wonderful blog. I have no son but have 2 daughters and own this book as for me it pertains to MOMS and how we go out of our way for our children no matter what. I love the video – he pours so much soul into the song! He has great talent! Keep on keeping on! 🙂

Reply

Caylee August 22, 2013 at 12:02 pm

Thank you for sharing your story 🙂

Reply

Devi August 22, 2013 at 12:02 pm

Simple emotions and so well put.

Reply

Katherine Stone August 22, 2013 at 11:59 am

Thank you so much for being part of Blogust and ensuring that children who need lifesaving vaccines will get them!!!!
Katherine Stone recently posted..Finding Support In Sharing Your PPD StoryMy Profile

Reply

Terry August 22, 2013 at 11:59 am

Simply put; yet profoundly moving and true! Thank you.

Reply

Blauewolf August 22, 2013 at 11:49 am

Such an honest piece. Thank you for sharing!

Reply

R C August 22, 2013 at 11:39 am

Some questions wait for answers, thx for sharing

Reply

Tanis August 22, 2013 at 11:38 am

Beautiful post!
Tanis recently posted..Who Let the Dogs Out?My Profile

Reply

Kyda August 22, 2013 at 11:37 am

I love that book 🙂 chokes me up every time I read it to my little girl…

Reply

Shannon Des Roches Rosa August 22, 2013 at 11:27 am

Thank you for sharing your talented, independent-minded son with us, for such a good cause.

Reply

Danielle August 22, 2013 at 11:23 am

love this blog!

Reply

d'Arcy August 22, 2013 at 11:19 am

Here in Uganda where there are many a child born out of hospital nor with midwife. A lovely story that I am sure had you close to your son forever! I hope we can see better child health here so mothers don’t loose their child before during or after birth…
d’Arcy recently posted..Stop Transmission of Polio (STOP) ProgramMy Profile

Reply

Nicole August 22, 2013 at 11:17 am

All the best to you and your son! He rocks! 🙂

Reply

Jen V August 22, 2013 at 11:16 am

beautiful post, Chloe!!

Reply

Phyllis August 22, 2013 at 11:03 am

Love your post – mother of two sons in 40’s

Reply

Seana August 22, 2013 at 10:59 am

Loved your son’s new rendition of an old classic. Twenty one is a hard age whatever path you’re embarking on, and it’s a good one for taking risks. I wish him much luck in his chosen profession.

Reply

TJ August 22, 2013 at 10:59 am

“…Don’t you ever ask them why, If they told you, you would cry, So just look at them and sigh, And know they love you…” Great post!

Reply

Paula Kiger August 22, 2013 at 10:43 am

I loved your post!! One of my fave Julia Cameron quotes is “Leap and the net will appear.” Not that I’m able to live that way. Sounds like your son is ahead of us. 🙂
Paula Kiger recently posted..Loving IssacMy Profile

Reply

Debs August 22, 2013 at 10:41 am

This post sang to me. I gave birth to a beautiful baby boy in March 1990 and I found myself nodding and smiling at everything you have written. So true, so true!

Reply

Marilyn August 22, 2013 at 8:38 am

Second comment – Oh, yes, I love that book “Love You Forever” and never realized the author would be criticized for the scene where she climbs in bed with her son at another location. Thanks for reminding me about it since I haven’t read it in years.

Reply

Erin August 22, 2013 at 8:37 am

Your son is talented. Good luck to him and you!

Reply

Christina August 22, 2013 at 8:36 am

Love this post. Thank you for sharing.
Christina recently posted..Wheatless Wednesday RecipeMy Profile

Reply

Marilyn August 22, 2013 at 8:36 am

Thanks for sharing both your words and your son’s video – your son does have talent. As a folk music lover I wish him well.

Reply

Greg F August 22, 2013 at 8:35 am

Lovely – thank you!

Reply

Kate August 22, 2013 at 8:34 am

Great post! Thanks for supporting Shot@Life!

Reply

Rinda August 22, 2013 at 8:28 am

Thank you for the reassurance that love can be enough.
Rinda

Reply

S August 22, 2013 at 8:24 am

You’re handling adulthood with an artist with grace.
S recently posted..Rudeness Begets RudenessMy Profile

Reply

Maloba August 22, 2013 at 8:12 am

luv 🙂

Reply

em August 22, 2013 at 8:11 am

Thank you for sharing your story as part of blogust! I enjoyed reading this. Best of luck to you and your son! Thanks also to Walgreens for donating a vaccine for this comment!

Reply

Brittney August 22, 2013 at 8:07 am

Beautiful post!

Reply

Christine London August 22, 2013 at 8:06 am

Lovely post, Chloe. I expect most mom’s fret over the impending independence of their sons and how long that might take. I know I do!

Loved “Love You Forever” Made me cry and still does. Definitely NOT creepy.

Reply

Kim August 22, 2013 at 8:06 am

Love it! Thanks for sharing~

Reply

Sherry/Leonana August 22, 2013 at 8:05 am

“I’ve come to accept that my son marches to the beat of a different drummer. (And, just between you and me, if I ever find that damned drummer I’m going to beat him to death with his own drumsticks!).” Oh boy, that’s my husband! This comment made me laugh out loud, and I have had many moments of wanting to beat that drummer! Now, you’ve given me food for thought, that his mother might have felt the same way!

Reply

Kaitlyn August 22, 2013 at 8:05 am

Lovely post, Chloe!

Reply

C August 22, 2013 at 7:59 am

Beautiful!

Reply

Monica T. August 22, 2013 at 7:57 am

Really beautiful! Thanks so much for sharing!

Reply

Susan Williams August 22, 2013 at 7:56 am

He’s put you through the wringer, for sure, but they all break our hearts, in some form or fashion, don’t they?
So glad to have an opportunity to leave a comment for Shot at Life.
Susan Williams recently posted..Fourteen Years Late for the Big Yellow BusMy Profile

Reply

Nicole August 22, 2013 at 7:55 am

Wow, great post! Thanks for your honesty from a mom’s perspective!

Reply

rodalena August 22, 2013 at 7:53 am

As I read this, my youngest son is making “pchew-pchew!” noises and crashing his Transformers into each other. Your son’s vibrancy and his creative spirit are a testament to the love he received under your roof. I hope my own little wild man grows up to be as brave and independent, whatever path he travels, as your son. <3
rodalena recently posted..Strong Lasting ImpressionsMy Profile

Reply

Melissa August 22, 2013 at 7:43 am

Oh how I can relate!! My 21 year old man-child, my youngest, has made so many bad choices and through them all my love for him is unfailing. These kids don’t understand sometimes how much we love them. And they won’t until they have their own. Thanks for your blog!

Reply

Elizabeth August 22, 2013 at 7:42 am

Beautiful! You give me hope that loving the child that confounds you is possible. 😉

Reply

Thomas Ronan August 22, 2013 at 7:34 am

Great story, I can rembember when my boys were growing up and the pride I had when they accopmplished something signifigant. They made me proud just to be their father.

Reply

Ericka August 22, 2013 at 7:32 am

I wish, someday when I have my own children, I’ll be just like you. Thank you for this beautiful post.

Reply

Lisa August 22, 2013 at 7:23 am

I wouldn’t have understood this post any earlier in my mothering career. Now I have a son looking to his own future independent of us (oh my heart!) I get it. He’s my boy, and I love him forever.

Reply

Vivian August 22, 2013 at 7:21 am

Thanks for being part of this wonderful campaign and for sharing part of your story and that of your son. The photo of him moments after his birth is timeless! It’s really inspiring and encouraging to know there are people like you who share my passion for making this world a better place one blog, vaccine or good wish at a time. May life reciprocate the generosity and kindness you seem to emanate. Cheers and best to you and yours. Vivian 🙂

Reply

Peg August 22, 2013 at 7:10 am

And now I’m crying…That damn book – every time I read it, I bawl my eyes out. Your babby is a man but always your babby. I love hearing him sing too. I cannot fathom that Henry will one day very soon be that young man.

Reply

Amy August 22, 2013 at 7:09 am

So beautiful!

Reply

Nili Majumder August 22, 2013 at 7:09 am

Beautiful sharing . ‘Love You Forever’ good book to know mother’s love. Your way of thinking about your son is great ‘Freedom is the oxygen of the soul.’ – Moshe Dayan

Reply

Edith Onines August 22, 2013 at 7:09 am

Thanks for participating in Shot for Life.

Reply

AG August 22, 2013 at 7:09 am

A very nice post! I love music and my 2 years old little guy is loving music so much as me. Don’t know yet if his love for music will progress but so far I am truly happy to share the musical moments together. Thanks for the video. Your son has a great voice! All the best.

Reply

Ccylevin August 22, 2013 at 7:07 am

Thank you!

Reply

Gemma Jeva August 22, 2013 at 7:06 am

All the best for you, lucky son of a lucky mother, loving each other forever!

Reply

Carla August 22, 2013 at 7:02 am

As the mother of 2 young sons, I loved this piece. And I’m hiding any musical instruments from them, just in case.

Reply

Gigi A August 22, 2013 at 7:01 am

This is so beautiful. Thank you!

Reply

Yvette Patacsil August 22, 2013 at 7:00 am

Little children, headache; big children, heartache. ~Italian Proverb
But ooooh, so worth it!
Yvette Patacsil recently posted..Newest award for our ProductsMy Profile

Reply

Nick & Annette August 22, 2013 at 6:59 am

Sometimes your kids break your hearts. But yes, that love. It’s a powerful thing. Beautiful post. And thanks for helping to raise awareness and actions for kids who need those vaccines.

Reply

Ashley J August 22, 2013 at 6:57 am

Awesome post. It is the eve one my boy, my only child 16th birthday. I can see how that mom would drive across town climbing in windows. 😉

Reply

Michele August 22, 2013 at 6:57 am

My nephew is 17 and heading to 22 very quickly. The changes that have occurred the past 5 years have been incredible. What lies ahead in the next 5 years is a bit scary. He too will venture off and try things, make choices, make mistakes, and find his way. He is already a fine young man but I, as his aunt, still see him as a 4yo adorable child. All the best to you and your son…and I hope he does make it big in the music world – does he happen to dabble in country music??

Reply

jani August 22, 2013 at 6:53 am

Chloe, my second son was born the same month/year as yours. I did not get to do the ‘natural’ birth thing, but I was able to push him out so that was special. (First delivery was a c-section.) He has chosen a different path than yours, but I know in my heart that no matter his choices I will always love him. He’s a precious gift and I’ll always know that.

Reply

Jamie August 22, 2013 at 6:50 am

Beautifully told.

Reply

Elizabeth Lee August 22, 2013 at 6:48 am

When my kids were little life was physically exhausting. Now that they’re almost all grown it’s emotionally exhausting. Parenting isn’t for cowards.
Elizabeth Lee recently posted..It&#8217;s Blog Spam DayMy Profile

Reply

Sheryl August 22, 2013 at 6:38 am

I love this, Chloe! From his birth to present day, it’s clear why you have such strong feelings for your child. He sounds like a very special young man. And I love the photo from the book of the woman holding her grown son. I’d do that too, if I had a ladder high enough. My two sons, though grown, will always be my children, and I will always hug and kiss them no matter how much it might embarrass them. And I’d even hold them on my lap if they weren’t so much bigger than me!
Sheryl recently posted..How I Turned Into a Bag LadyMy Profile

Reply

Wendy Roberts August 22, 2013 at 6:36 am

Chloe, that was beautiful. I understand your post very intimately. I’ve got a couple of artists for sons myself.

Reply

Jody - Fit at 55 August 22, 2013 at 6:32 am

I Love this & yes, let him find his way! I did what was expected & the older I got, the more unhappy I was….

Thank you for sharing!
Jody – Fit at 55 recently posted..Bread Lovers Dream Come True & some TMI!My Profile

Reply

Margo August 22, 2013 at 6:32 am

Thank you for your post! Keep taking deep breaths and remember that your son appreciates your support more than you know.

Reply

Britt August 22, 2013 at 6:32 am

Love this post!

Reply

Jamie August 22, 2013 at 6:31 am

Great post and so talented!

Reply

Scala August 22, 2013 at 6:30 am

Thanks for sharing, you and your artist will continue to make your ways through life.

Reply

Pam Petty August 22, 2013 at 6:21 am

Thank you for this post!

Reply

Kim August 22, 2013 at 6:18 am

Thank You for sharing! And thank you for contributing to the vaccination campaign!

Reply

Tyler August 22, 2013 at 6:17 am

Thanks for sharing!

Reply

Jessica Y August 22, 2013 at 6:14 am

Beautiful post. Thank you.

Reply

Marjorie August 22, 2013 at 6:09 am

Thank you for sharing!

Reply

Wendy August 22, 2013 at 6:05 am

Lovely post. Thank you

Reply

Bobbiejo August 22, 2013 at 6:04 am

Love means acceptance. Thank you for showing love to your child so that he might share love as well on whatever path he takes.

Reply

Julia August 22, 2013 at 6:04 am

Watching our man-cubs turn into full grown men is painful. It’s exhilarating and frightening at the same time. We do love them forever. (And your man-cub is a wonderful guy.)

Thanks for participating in Shot for Life.
Julia recently posted..August 2013 ChallengeMy Profile

Reply

Karen August 22, 2013 at 5:50 am

Thank you for sharing your story

Reply

Barbara August 22, 2013 at 5:46 am

Thank you for todays Blog and the opportunity to comment in partnership with Walgreens to provide vaccinations for children in need.
I have watched parent-adult child relationships be severed or severely disabled because the parent could not accept their adult child’s life path. That is to me the exact opposite outcome we strive for when we pour ourselves into our child’s life to enable them to become an adjusted, independent and successful adult. To be and show we are truly proud of, happy for and content with a child who has become a productive member of society should be our ultimate goal. Only then can we hope to maintain a lifelong, loving connection with our children and reap the many benefits this will enrich us with.

Reply

Chrysula August 22, 2013 at 5:45 am

Chloe, I have two sons. One has all the signs of a Wall St tycoon, the other an artist. We will see how it all plays out, but I’ll be sealing this line up for future reference, “just because your son masquerades around as a grown man your heart doesn’t recognize him for the little boy he’ll always be.”

Love this! Thank you so much for being a part of getting vaccines to kids who need them!
Chrysula recently posted..Back-to-School-Mom’s Kids Get Their RevengeMy Profile

Reply

Chrysula August 22, 2013 at 11:20 am

Also? I have been singing THIS all day long in my mind. Allison Krauss’ “I Will”… (love you forever) — so divine! http://youtu.be/WHHjDl2KTWc?t=1m7s

Reply

Sharon Couto August 22, 2013 at 5:39 am

“Have a code that you can live by”… the greatest gift a parent can gift to a child. This remarkable post about your journey with with your remarkable son is perfection. Thank you for sharing and thank you for your support of Blogust and Shot@Life so each child may “teach” parents well…
Sharon Couto recently posted..Ladd Observatory – a phenomenal, fun, FREE night of sky-gazingMy Profile

Reply

Sharon Greenthal August 22, 2013 at 5:39 am

I remember that book – it was on our bookshelf.

Mothers and sons…complicated and emotional. I feel your pain!
Sharon Greenthal recently posted..You’re Never Too Old – ZipliningMy Profile

Reply

Veramur August 22, 2013 at 5:32 am

Love the fly!

Reply

Wendrie Heywood August 22, 2013 at 5:30 am

Beautifully written Chloe!
Wendrie Heywood recently posted..Images for Quaker Meeting HousesMy Profile

Reply

REK981 August 22, 2013 at 5:22 am

There are too many cynics in this world. Love you Forever is a wonderful book. Unconditional love – its an amazing gift. Thank you for participating in Blogust!!

Reply

Cathy Chester August 22, 2013 at 5:18 am

Great job, Chloe. I love the first picture – is that your husband next to you? What a wonderful way for him to start the world by hearing his mother’s loving words.

I read “The Artist’s Way” a few years ago and loved it. I also love (and still have) I’ll Love You Forever. I threw out a lot of my son’s childhood books, but I wrote loving words on the inside cover, and want him to have it forever…

Great post, and a great reason to write it: for your son, and to allow other children to get vaccines that will enable them to live a fully (and perhaps musical!) life.
Cathy Chester recently posted..Wordless Wednesday: The Cat In The Paper BagMy Profile

Reply

Celia August 22, 2013 at 5:11 am

Beautiful! Thanks for sharing, and to Walgreens for donating:)
Celia recently posted..Justice For Ethan: Governor Martin O’Malley, We need an independent investigation and training for police.My Profile

Reply

Delores Van Horn August 22, 2013 at 5:04 am

Ah, living with children’s choices. My son chose to join the Marines and give up his four year full ride scholarship to the University of Michigan. I was so disappointed, but tried to be supportive of his decision. And now 25 plus years later, it really was the best decision for him although I had many worrisome days and nights as he deployed to places were he was in jeopardy. So – yes, we worry and fret – and go forward – loving them Forever.

Thanks for the post

Reply

katieQ August 22, 2013 at 4:56 am

Thanks for sharing your experience with motherhood. I went into 40 hours of labor during hurricane Gloria and have felt that the wind has been trying to know me off my feet ever since. Both my son and I are weathering the storm and he will be getting married this Saturday. I’d buy that book, but I’m afraid it would freak out his wife.
katieQ recently posted..A Journey Across the Sound with a Little Fabric On the SideMy Profile

Reply

Lee O. August 22, 2013 at 4:53 am

No college would have taught me to be that talented of a musician. Great video, great post! Thanks for supporting Shot@Life.

Reply

Jess August 22, 2013 at 4:49 am

I love that book, too. What a lovely post 🙂

Reply

Myrdin Thompson August 22, 2013 at 4:13 am

I’m still trying to navigate the world of teen boys not ready for my sons to be men! Thanks for this-and for supporting Shot@Life!

Reply

Morra August 22, 2013 at 4:05 am

Oh my goodness I teared up reading this post. A mother’s bond with her son is inimitable and I can completely imagine traveling across the world to hold my adult sons! xox

Reply

Get Smart August 22, 2013 at 3:37 am

I had to take ativan, due to the death of my mother then my sister passed away and managed to get her child out of foster care and help the father get custody. However, my messed up sister in florida spoke against me knowing i have bipolar illness and was taking this child out of foster care. The father manipulated me into sleeping with him, and other men too. I have been safe with using condoms, however the mental abuse was horrible. I am traumatized, and tried to get off ativan but cant. I now take yoga classes and stopped allowing men into my life. My doctor doesnt help she will just give me 7 more pills, I have also been sexually abused by shrinks, counselor at the mental health clinic, even had another phychiatrist sent me dirty pictures thru cell phone. I believe mental illness has to do with how messed up your life is and how you react to problems. I know its about money they make from insurance and your just a number to doctors. I think they are unethical. However, i refuse to get off medication because i dont want to show worst symptoms. ativan, is an addictive drug that is difficult to get off of. And i believe that psychiatrist, make money from the pills they prescribe. i wish there was a cure or control of bipolar classification 1, but there isnt.
Get Smart recently posted..No last blog posts to return.My Profile

Reply

Frank August 22, 2013 at 2:54 am

Thank you for the great post–your son sounds amazing. My youngest is also an artist and independent. He lives ten hours away, and while I miss him being in “our house,’ I am excited for all the experiences, creations, and hope he has. Thanks for being a part of this important “blogust” work. All kids deserve a Shot at life! (and thank you Walgreens!)

Reply

Lois Alter Mark August 21, 2013 at 9:52 pm

Chloe, I love this post. It’s so hard to watch your kids make choices that you know ultimately make their lives (and yours) more difficult. I can totally relate to the drummer line. Ha! He is lucky to have you to love him and worry about him forever. And vice versa. xo

Reply

Previous post:

Next post: